November, 2020
I know that I can work through anything with myself. Even when things seem super bleak and I’m flooded by emotions that feel insurmountable, underneath it all, I have my own back. And I’m not stating this as a way to show off or make myself look more evolved than anyone else. I’m stating this because even though I know my abilities to take really solid care of myself, I do wish I had more people in my life who could just listen without any agenda. Most people want to “fix” each other. They have good intentions but the only real answers come from within. By coming to an even deeper understanding of this lately, I’ve seen how I have attempted the same fixing protocols with others along the way. It is a superpower to witness someone and not fix them. It is one of the ultimate expressions of presence. There are many talented teachers of presence but when the rubber meets the road, each of us is required to find our own relationship with presence. This doesn’t mean the journey of others can’t be helpful, it just means that it isn’t yours. Our experiences are unique to us while having some overarching commonalities that all humans share.
The constant willingness, discipline, and loyalty to connect with myself regardless of my emotions, thoughts, or experiences is a gift that I give myself as often as I can. It is the commitment to be congruent, authentic, and accurate in representation of who I am in the presence of myself and others. This is not easy and sometimes I fail miserably. In an earlier post, I discussed the importance of location. When we know our own location in time and space, it is much safer and easier for those around us to make a clean choice on whether or not to interact with us. More importantly, when we are solid in our time and space location with ourselves, we navigate cleanly, authentically, and compassionately through our lives. In addition, by being solidly located, it is much easier to be in constant, consistent relationship with our own presence. That is, if you know where you are, you are not somewhere else.
And when you know where you are, you can be with yourself in the most complete way possible, even when you don’t want to.
